Have you fallen off the Excitement NEW YEARS wagon into old crap habits and mindset? Five ways purging 2020 will provide Secrets for a SUCCESSFUL 2021.
You can’t take it with you when you’re gone right! So why would you carry any of the negative impacts of 2020 into this new 2021 year? Let alone any prior years!
Let’s face it 2020 was unlike a year most were prepared for. Stepping into 2021 with fresh resolutions is a strategy for many that fall apart naturally, let alone with a pandemic on your back. Why is it that we allow the first conflict to derail the whole process we desire the most?
We are now in MARCH. Where are you at with your NEW year NEW you tradition? Or did you fall into the majority and slip off already?
WHY does this happen? The strike of a new calendar year does not reset YOU!
YOU must take steps in preparation to reset yourself. I start my clients well before the New Year shifting their mindset, feeling their goals, raising their energy, focusing on releasing and introducing positive while having plans already in action!
Focusing on the negative in any situation will drop the vibration of our energy like an anchor in the water straight to the bottom. So the question I often hear is, HOW do we avoid the repeated cycles? How do we create new successful habits?
- Stop comparing yourself: your situation, your life, your setbacks to anyone else’s journey.
- Complaining and being negative will not bring joy or solve any problems.
- Focus energy where you do have a say, value and control, so outside factors will not derail where you’re going.
- Get Back to the basics and find what excites you and makes you feel the most joy.
- You are enough, and you matter!
Stop comparing yourself. Your situation, your life, your setbacks to anyone else’s journey
Everyone you know has not and does not have the same blueprint step by step for their life. So, therefore, how can anyone be of comparison. They can not! Wow! what a breath of relief, there is completely nobody in your first competition with you. So let me tell you. Ready. Nobody has the same script or user manual to what your individual journey consists of. There is no written step-by-step guide on how to do this thing we call Life. Wouldn’t it be just so much easier to lie when we buy an appliance the manual tells us how to know what’s next, if not call 1-800 someone will guide you? Wouldn’t that be so boring if we all were giving the user manual when our birth happened?
Realize this; we would still complain because the male model born 01/22/95 didn’t say what to do when he wouldn’t eat vegetables or go to sleep every 3 hours. You see, when we compare ourselves to someone or something else, we have a preconceived expectation vs embracing the authentic model and journey that every person has been brought to earth to become. When you realize there is nothing to compare and experience embracing yourself, you realize this life is no competition. Stop being so hard on yourself; perfect doesn’t exist. Focus on the lessons you have learnt vs the disgruntled frustrations and failures. Live your journey; it’s nobody else’s to navigate; everyone has their own.
Complaining and being negative will not bring joy or solve any problems, new or old
There are many formulations of the “law of attraction.” You may have heard “what you think about you bring about, what you focus on increases” if you have this time, let’s revisit. If you think about the negative outcome, it’s because you or someone you know had a similar experience. Hmmm, what did we discuss in point 1? Comparing ourselves to another is similar to a past or other experience. This is how we easily get derailed and into negative thinking. Fear & Past Experiences will connect our journey to the same outcome. Why would you want to continue reliving those frustrations? I am here to remind you, the root of all the same positive results is you.
The root to all the same negative results is you! If you would like a more positive experience, it is necessary to change your negative preconditioned thinking. Holding onto the past frustrations, not just 2020, will continue to bring toxicity and not bring joy to your present life or future. Take some time to release the negative energy. I often suggest that clients write everything on paper, rip it up and safely burn it or dispose of it. Often the writing will be a mess of words, and that’s ok; realize that is making room for clarity and inviting positive solutions.
Focus energy where you do have a say, value and control, so outside factors will not derail where you’re going
When we focus our energy on what we can control, we will find joy and not be depleted. If we focus our energy on what is out of our soul’s power, we will spin in circles and go nowhere. Most conversations are about mundane topics or what is going on in society. When we focus on these topics, our emotional charge is more likely to be fired right up and burn our energy out because we have no control; therefore, if we focus on the solutions to our own personal joy, not society’s problems, we are more likely to experience success. “Where energy goes, energy flows” is a saying I once heard! Ask yourself where am I spending the majority of my energy? Is it bringing me joy and value? What can I control and change to have more joy!
Get Back to the basics and find what excites you and makes you feel the most joy
I often hear from clients and conversations, “I feel like I lost myself,” and as a woman, you likely have unintentionally by giving and providing to others or the family! I’ll speak to the ladies that are mothers. I experience so many conversations with women being so off-balance. As children grow up leaving home, mothers begin to wonder who they are or who they have become as they push aside their lives to be there for everyone else.
The first thing I always say, NObody gives you a user manual at the hospital when your baby is born, when you are committed to a relationship and start this new life journey. It’s not like you just purchased a washing machine that you know every detail about and operates smoothly like another model or call service personnel to make things smooth sailing; go easy on yourself, sister! Life does not have a user manual, and nobody is the same make, model or edition. Every experience is unique, and it’s up to each person to understand joy is within themselves on the inside, not because of another, exterior materials or substance. Get back to the basics of your joy! Before your income, partnership, motherhood, what did you do to have joy in your life?
Lastly, You are enough and you matter!
As we maneuver through this journey called life, we not only forget the basics of our joy, we forget that who we are, unique, authentic souls every person in life is enough and matters. What you do not matter if it is accepted openly and appreciated is enough, and you matter. Your story, voice, hurts, feelings, downfalls, and success, no matter how big or small, is enough and matters! Life isn’t about comparison and compromises, and when your time’s up, how much or how often you did or did not do something. Life isn’t about taking records of if you or when you had your setbacks and beating yourself up for not having or not doing.
You’re not taking it with you when you’re gone right, so are you willing to stop carrying what no longer serves you any longer! Derail what no longer serves you, embracing the lessons, the blessing and above all, who you have been created because of all the overcomings! Leave the negative past and prepare for the positive future you desire and truly deserve! When you truly focus on releasing the negative thoughts, ideas, beliefs and patterns, opportunities open up to create new successful habits. Purge the past and show up for you in 2021; know that you are enough just as you are, show up in our life knowing you matter!
GUESS what the good news is, It’s only MARCH! Let’s dig in and release our own BS. You can FOCUS on YOU starting right now and still have incredibly successful 202. Are you ready to shift and reset your mindset for an incredible year?